Thursday, 4 May 2017

Speak No Evil - Owl Tag for Fremsnakk

This is my second post for today. The first one is here.


Hi everyone!

This post is written to support an ongoing "Talk Positively About Someone" campaign in Norway, hosted by the Nordsalten Hobbyklubb Blog. In Norwegian we have a relatively new word, Fremsnakk - which is the opposite of Baksnakk, which means slander, or literally translated "Back Talk" - to speak negatively about someone behind their back. So the opposite of that is to talk positively about someone, and let people know :-)

It's a very sad story why this campaign came about, after a Norwegian crafter blogged about her having been bullied in the crafting community. I know, shocking! I don't know that many crafters in Norway and I haven't witnessed any of the bullying and slander - all I know is this one person speaking up about it, and one person being bullied is one too many.

We all have a story, we all struggle with something or the other - some of us just hide it better than others, and that's OK too. Just as long as we know that we have no rights to judge a book by its cover. People are so much more than what we can see.
 

If someone slanders, do you listen?

Or are you wise like the second owl?




Below is the stamp I used. I stamped the images on watercolour paper, cut the images apart, and used the first and second owl, plus pieces of the branch. The images were coloured in using Zig watercolour makers. I made the texts on my computer.

http://www.rubberdance.com/owl-do-good



This zentangle stamp was designed by Melina Dahl in Sweden for Rubber Dance and it's a a tweak on The Three Wise Monkeys, who saw no evil, heard no evil, and spoke no evil. To me that includes "don't slander"; it means that if I hear any slander, I try to shut my ears to it (hear no evil), and I certainly don't spread any slander (speak no evil). It also means that I try my best to "close my eyes" to any negative sides of a person, and rather open my eyes to their positive sides - we all have many of those :-)


Besides - what you might not like about someone, is perhaps the very reason why I like that person, and vice versa. I like people who are straight forward and brutally honest, whereas other people might find them rude. I might be drawn to people with a peculiar sense of humour, you might find them silly or weird. We might also have a very different taste when it comes to arts and crafts;  what I like might not be your cup of tea - and the other way around. And that's OK! As long as we remember this:



Now, let's get back to the main reason for this post - my support the campaign called Fremsnakk, i.e. "to talk positively about someone". I know I can get better at giving compliments and telling people why I love this or that about them or something they do or have made. I might think to myself that I really like her or what she says/does/makes...., but people aren't mind readers, so let's all get better at giving one another compliments! :-) Not just in comments we leave on blogs (which is very nice, too!), but also in person - face to face, it being friends or strangers.

So - today I want to Fremsnakke a Norwegian crafter who I had the pleasure of meeting last year. We had emailed back and forth after I had joined one of her crafters' groups on Facebook, and she also appeared as a Guest Designer on my company's blog, (see her post here). She is extremely talented, very sweet, has an awesome sense of humour, and she has that straight forwardness people from Northern Norway is known for, which I really like.

So who's that girl? Her name is Jorunn Langås Andreassen and her blog is here. Go have a look! I don't know if there is anything this woman can't make - she makes everything from tags, ATC's and cards to scrapbook pages and 3D decorations. Here is just a tiny selection of things Jorunn has made:







And last, but not least - this greeting inside a card:

 
Bottom text is in Norwegian and reads:

You are worthy
because you are you

Always remember that!!


Thanks for stopping by today
Now it's your turn to give compliments to someone,
either face to face or in writing.
Words matter. Speak well of one another,
and of yourself



18 comments:

  1. LOVE this Bibi, every word you've written is so true too, I couldn't have said it any better myself. I'm shocked really as I've always thought of the crafting world as a very supportive and inspiring place, thank you for contributing to making it a more beautiful place to hang out in ;)
    hugs
    Donna xx

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    1. Thank you, Donna ♥ Luckily MOST of us do contribute to making the crafting world a beautiful place to hang out in - and you're one of them, my little cupcake ;-)
      Hugs back xx

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  2. Fabulous post and fabulous campaign. It's so easy to be negative, and it should be easy to be positive instead! That's one thing I love about the crafty blog community, it's usually such a positive place. This is an inspiring post. Hugz

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    1. Thank you, ionabunny hunny! ♥ It seems that it's easy to be positive when looking at the kind comments people leave out in public, but I guess we don't see all the shit that's going on behind closed doors, so to speak. Let's keep up the good work and support one another, it's the only antidote I can think of. Hugs xx

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  3. I´m so honored that you used my wise owls for this purpose! This post really matters <3
    Mer framsnack tack!!

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    1. Tack, Melina fina! ♥ Your stamp is perfect for this! I'm offering it up as a prize over at Nordsalten this month, as they're having a Fremsnakk-Giveaway :)

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  4. Love this post Bibi and Melina's stamps are perfect to get the message across. I too have suffered cruelty within the crafting community just under a year ago and I'm still recovering. It has completely knocked my confidence which was always fragile anyway. People are not always what they seem, they can be fine when they are taking from you, but once your usefulness to them has gone, they drop you like a hot brick.

    I have tried to not let this harden my heart but sometimes it's difficult. I'm am a believer in communication as it is the key to most situations, however as I found out, not everyone shares this. So thank you for highlighting this issue and let's hope the message gets acrossedxx

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    1. I am very sorry to hear this, Debs dear! I have been naive to think that this never happens in the crafting community. What we usually see is that people in the community are very supportive of their fellow crafters, but shit aparently happens off-line that nobody hears about. (The woman that spoke up in Norway had been bullied online as well, in groups/forums and blog comments - plus emails! WTF, right?)

      You bring out an important thing here; confidence. We have to remember that people might be fragile, and that includes people we think have all the confidence in the world.

      I totally agree with you that communication is KEY! I also know that if I (unintentionally) hurt someone, I want to know right away so we can work it out. Misunderstandings are so easy to fix - should be, anyway, if only we talk AND listen ...

      Debs - I hope you'll get over this somehow, and I hope you know how incredibly talented you are! ♥ ♥ ♥

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    2. I'm so sorry too Debs. When I read this I just think 'don't you know how brilliant you are? How could you believe anything negative!' But it's easy to see this in others and not always in yourself. Maybe it's a British thing, we don't like to 'big ourselves up' Also being married to a Yorkshireman you have to realise that 'fine'is bl##dy amazing!

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  5. Enjoyed reading your blog and was shocked to hear that bullying goes on in the crafting community. Shocked and saddened. Some crafters blog to get away from things and some because they might be lonely or ill and for lots of other reasons. Bullying is not tolerated at any level and thank you for hi-lighting it x

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    1. Thanks, Mac ♥ You're absolutely right - some crafters blog to get away from things, and it should be an up-lifting safe haven for everyone. Keep up the good work! xx

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  6. Thanks for caring enough to speak out like this, and also illustrate it with your art.

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    1. Thank you, I really do care and could have written so much more about this ... maybe I will later.... ♥

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  7. What an awesome post Bibi. Although stemming from negativity there was nothing but up-lifting and supportive friendship.
    Dot x

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    1. Thank you, Dot ♥ I'm glad to hear that you saw it the way I intended. xx

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  8. It's a fabulous tag Bibi with a really important message. I was shocked to read that bullying goes on in the crafting community, I'm lucky in that I've only seen the positive, supportive side. I always have to check what I've written because what I intend as a playful, tongue in cheek comment may look different at the other side of a computer screen. I know someone who will say horrible things then say 'no offence' as if that makes it all ok! Rant over :-) xx

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  9. Really glad I took the time to come back to read this Bibi, every word you wrote is true and it is a sad world that we live in where creative people can be so negative. We should all embrace its beauty with positive thinking but unfortunately there will always be someone that prefers to be destructive rather than constructive.. If only the world was full of Bibi's xxx

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  10. I'm appalled to hear bullying is amongst crafters too.... Generally crafting communities are nothing but supportive and trolls uninterested with our posts. I hate internet bullying, faceless and pointless. I would love to think I could ignore negative comments (at least the nasty ones) but I'm sure I would be hurt.
    Great campaign!

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I guess it's not common that people go back to see if they were thanked for their comments, so I will say it now: THANK YOU so much for taking the time to leave a comment! ♥